As a wedding planner, my favorite day is wedding day( of course). Something that is so special about this job is that I get to see happy couple after happy couple begin their lives together with friends and family gathered around to celebrate. As much as I enjoy wedding day, and as wonderful and magical they may be, they can also be stressful for the bride and groom. As a wedding planner, I want you to be stress-free and your best self on wedding day. My job is take the stress away from you so that you may enjoy every moment of your day, but there are some things you can do as well that will help keep the stress at bay. Here are a few tips and tricks to assure your wedding day is less stressful and more enjoyable.
1.) Make a list of things you’ll need to pack for the wedding day beforehand
I am not talking about your honeymoon bag, though this should be packed prior to wedding day too. I recommend packing a bag for the day-of that includes extra clothing, such as a pair of fresh underwear, a button down shirt, and a comfy pair of shoes for the reception, and making a list in advance will help you stay organized and assure you have everything you need. As far as your wedding day accessories, such as your earrings, garter, perfume, and other essentials, I suggest you set those aside in a special bag as you buy them. That way, you’re not scrambling around trying to locate all those important details days before and they’re all in a safe place.
2.) Do something relaxing a week and a half to two before the wedding
I am not talking about a bachelorette party or a deep tissue massage (though these are also recommended). I am talking about a relaxing time A W A Y. Maybe stay in a hotel in town with a girlfriend or two and be a tourist in your own city, or get away in a cabin by a lake or in the mountains for a weekend and unplug. Try to find something that will get you away from your daily routine of planning, that will give you time to relax, reflect and rejuvenate. You may be saying “Hannah, how do you expect me to relax when I am a week or two away from my wedding day and there is so much to be done?!” I know it may sound stressful, but believe me; you’re going to be happy you did once you’re a few days away from walking down the aisle and the wedding rush begins. Planning a wedding is fun, but as the day approaches, I have noticed brides become more stressed. It’s natural. But to avoid having a breakdown trying to remember every detail and hoping your cousin’s boyfriend doesn’t act a fool at the reception, find a day or two to take some time out for YOU and try to relax. Just be sure to let your planner know you’ll be out so we’re not emailing you with new details every 5 minutes while you’re trying to relax and detox, and rest assured we’d have all the details and info waiting for you when you return!
3.) Hire a wedding planner, even if it’s only for day-of coordination
I know, I know. I am a wedding planner so this statement seems a little bias. But honestly, even if I weren’t a wedding planner and even if you don’t ever sign with me, I would still advise you to do this. It is nearly impossible for a bride to be stress-free on her wedding day when she is trying to do everything herself or if she is having family or friends coordinate her wedding day. I know of brides, some of them close friends that have gone through their wedding day without a professional planner and many of them did not enjoy their wedding to the fullest. Some were even miserable because they were too busy worrying if everything was in its place and whether everything/everyone was running on time. Some brides like to do everything themselves and if you can do so without stressing yourself and others out, then that’s awesome! But if you are not one of those people, spend some time researching wedding planners to find the right price and person for your big day.
4.) Begin wedding day with a good breakfast or brunch
Breakfast may be one of the last things you think about on your wedding day, so I am going to remind you right now. Eating breakfast is important in everyday life and if you’re not a big breakfast eater, wedding day is the day to start. Once the wedding day prep begins and your vendors start to show up, the day becomes a whirlwind and eating is almost always put on the back-burner. Eating breakfast will not only help you sustain your energy (you’re going to need as much as you can get) but it will also keep you from feeling the effects of extreme hunger and low blood sugar later in the day when you’re in the middle of photos and don’t have food around. Just be sure to pack some snacks or designate someone to bring you lunch if you have an early breakfast.
5.) Play some music and laugh while you get ready
You’ll probably be nervous on your wedding day, and that’s totally expected, but my favorite bride tribes are the ones who blast their favorite tunes and truly enjoying their time together. Your wedding day is a serious event, but that doesn’t mean you have to spend the whole day being serious. As your planner, I can guarantee you everything will be taken care of. Your wedding day vision will come to life with or without you stressing about it, so you may as well turn on your favorite playlist, dance a little, and crack all the jokes you want with your girls. After all, your day is all about creating memories that will last a lifetime.
6.) Don’t worry about the timeline
I am not saying you should be willy-nilly about the timeline, but sometimes (read: most of the time) the wedding day does not go exactly as the timeline says it should. And that’s okay! If you’ve hired professionals, we know how to handle a little time crunch. Just have faith in the people you hired and try to enjoy every moment. Your wedding day goes by so fast; you’d be amazed at how easy it is to miss sweet moments that could turn into lifetime memories. Try to savor it all. And a little tip: If you’re building your own timeline, set each event a little early so if you DO get a little off schedule, you still have some wiggle room.
7.) Don’t try to satisfy everyone, it’s not possible
It’s safe to say that I have met many-a-bride who stresses about satisfying everyone. Your mom wants one thing, your aunt wants another, and your cousin thinks you should do that thing that everyone is doing in their weddings, that you’re not a fan of. It happens. The stress of trying to satisfy everyone is enough to make a bride go crazy. Don’t get me wrong; it’s good to consider what others bring to the table, as outside opinions are sometimes very helpful. But don’t feel pressured to incorporate every idea or desire of everyone you talk to. Ultimately, it is your day, and you can’t satisfy everyone. It is all about you, after all. These are the memories you will live with for a lifetime and, though it is nice to consider your guests and what they will enjoy, don’t forget about the most important people of the day (you and your honey), and their desires and vision.
8.) Spend as much time as you can with your (new) spouse
I understand you can’t spend the WHOLE day with your future/new spouse, because at some point you’re separated, both before the first look if you’re doing one, and definitely before the ceremony, but this tip is one of the most important to remember. Wedding day is pretty much a big party and it’s full of friends and family, some of whom you haven’t seen in years, who all want their time to congratulate the bride and groom. Sometimes it’s easier to split up and allow him to go talk to his friends while you visit with yours, and though it’s not a crime for you two to be apart on your wedding day, it is much more enjoyable when you spend all the moments together. That way, your memories of the day are the same and all of them are together, everyone gets to see and visit with the both of you, and you don’t lose sight of the whole reason everyone is gathered together.
You will probably hear many tips on how you can de-stress your wedding day before your day arrives, but these tips are some that may be overlooked. Bottom line: it’s easy to lose sight of the reason for the wedding amongst the hustle and bustle of planning. The best way to avoid the stress and not sweat the small stuff is to focus on the reason for the wedding, the fact that you are entering a new beginning with your best friend, and when you look back on your day, all that will matter is if you two had the time of your lives.
Thanks for reading!